Columns from Kathy Martin

Understand long-term care policies

Understand long-term care policies

Turning 60 and looking forward to a retirement in which neither spouse devours their nest egg, my friends researched long-term care policies. …

June 06, 2014 10:00 am(2)

Early onset Alzheimer's devasting

Early onset Alzheimer's devasting

A younger woman with elementary school age children at home asked advice about her mother, merely 62, who is showing signs of serious confusio…

May 02, 2014 12:00 pm(0)

Stuff to think about

Stuff to think about

After my last article on downsizing, specifically about disposing of children’s trophies, I returned home from being immersed in the creativit…

March 24, 2014 12:00 pm(0)

Column: She's ready to let go

Column: She's ready to let go

My husband asked our adult children if they wanted to keep the impressive collection of trophies they acquired over their younger years. If yo…

February 21, 2014 12:30 pm(0)

More focus needed on palliative care

More focus needed on palliative care

People frequently ask me how I think the United States is going to deal with the insurance and health care costs of the massive number of baby…

January 20, 2014 12:00 pm(0)

Alzheimer's, dementia caregiver support groups offered

Alzheimer's, dementia caregiver support groups offered

Not having specific training in journalism or communication, I often send one of my monthly writings to the Courier thinking, "This is one of …

October 11, 2013 12:00 pm(1)

Know the facts of your living will

Know the facts of your living will

I stood beside my mother at my father's grave site over Memorial Day weekend. Her gravestone sits beside his with the date of her birth engrav…

August 02, 2013 2:00 pm(0)

Ordinary moments make memories

Ordinary moments make memories

One a recent visit, my nephew told me he deliberately forces himself to stop and be keenly aware of time, place, sights, smells, colors and em…

July 19, 2013 12:00 pm(0)

Be upfront with doctor about confusion

Be upfront with doctor about confusion

It is a brave first step to boldly state to your physician, "I am worried about increasing confusion. I want help." Trust me when I say, the e…

June 14, 2013 12:00 pm(0)

Conundrums ahead hide in the present

Conundrums ahead hide in the present

I recently had the honor of being the guest host for an Alzheimer's support group. As always, I received more than I gave. I felt awe at the d…

May 13, 2013 12:00 pm(0)

Life can change without warning

Life can change without warning

This week I talked to several people whose lives were turned upside down overnight.

April 12, 2013 12:00 pm(0)

Caregiver guilt is unhealthy

Caregiver guilt is unhealthy

After years of caregiving and much urging from his family, a husband acquiesced to "trying" assisted living for his wife with Alzheimer's. Pre…

March 04, 2013 12:00 pm(1)

Alzheimer's research making gains

Alzheimer's research making gains

For the past 10 years or more, the breakthrough that's been longed for is an ability to intervene in the early stages of Alzheimer's disease, …

January 14, 2013 12:00 pm(0)

Holidays a good time for 'what ifs'

Holidays a good time for 'what ifs'

I was 37 when my father died. My mother-in-law died when she was 59. My husband and I have three adult children, two aged 28 and one 34.

November 16, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

It's not just 'stuff,' it's a lifetime of memories and dreams

It's not just 'stuff,' it's a lifetime of memories and dreams

A relocating retiree gave me a thought to chew on. "Don't regret what you leave behind. Be thankful for what you had."

October 30, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

Consider long-term care insurance

Consider long-term care insurance

If you're planning for retirement, you need more than a bucket list. You'll need to plan a budget and consider potential expenses as you age. …

September 21, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

Understand the stages of Alzheimer's

Understand the stages of Alzheimer's

Several families have confessed that in retrospect they viewed in shock the beginnings of life-altering memory loss and confusion eight or mor…

August 17, 2012 12:00 pm(1)

Three words break the barrier

Three words break the barrier

Recently, a woman introduced herself and announced, "I have dementia." It was disarmingly charming and liberating. A mountain of barriers betw…

July 27, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

Search early for retirement living options

Search early for retirement living options

Recently a number of individuals have expressed confusion about when is the right time to relocate to one of the various options for retiremen…

June 15, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

'Just in Case' book a good idea

'Just in Case' book a good idea

My cousin, much to my admiration, has devised a homemade creation entitled "Our Just In Case Book." Her adult children know where it is locate…

May 18, 2012 3:00 pm(0)

Plan ahead for peaceful division of possessions

Plan ahead for peaceful division of possessions

Throughout our marriage, my husband has frequently said, "Our kids are going to be thrilled to inherit our paintings someday."

April 20, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

Good health comes naturally

Good health comes naturally

It's everywhere. I have picked up four magazines in the past week, from fluff to professional journals, and all contain similar messages. Trad…

April 06, 2012 2:00 pm(0)

Caregiving truly is for better or worse

Caregiving truly is for better or worse

"We are more intimate now than we have ever been. I am helping my wife of 60 years with her most basic human needs. It is a privilege to care …

February 17, 2012 8:00 pm(0)

The time to clear out is right now

The time to clear out is right now

I am lending a hand to an 85-year-old woman to trim down her possessions and relocate. In 29 years of experience I have learned that the older…

January 20, 2012 12:00 pm(0)

Holidays are eye openers for many families

Holidays are eye openers for many families

If you ask doctors and staff at hospitals and nursing and assisted living facilities, they will tell you this is a busy time of year.

December 16, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Keep calm during the holidays

Keep calm during the holidays

My father had a difficult time with large family gatherings as his Alzheimer's progressed. Many caregivers ask for advice on how to celebrate …

November 18, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Mom's health scare a lesson for everyone

Mom's health scare a lesson for everyone

During the summer, I wrote about my healthy, active mother being ill and the problems in identifying the source of her distress. Many ask me h…

October 21, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Be prepared to parent your parents

Be prepared to parent your parents

My mom is strong and in charge and continues to stop me in my tracks when she roars, "Kathleen!" Nothing continues to put the fear of God in m…

August 19, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Join this year's Walk to End Alzheimer's

Join this year's Walk to End Alzheimer's

This year the Alzheimer Association's major fundraiser's name has changed from Memory Walk to Walk to End Alzheimer's Disease. I appreciate th…

July 22, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Make retirement plans early

Make retirement plans early

Recently I attended a financial planning seminar to prepare for the big day --- retirement. It is still in the future, but the imaginable future.

June 03, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Husband's Alzheimer's to blame for his anger

Husband's Alzheimer's to blame for his anger

Someone said to me recently, "You know about everything regarding aging, alternative retirement lifestyles and aging wellness. You are an expe…

May 13, 2011 3:00 pm(0)

Plan for parents' care, independence

Plan for parents' care, independence

Two adult children approached me this week with sadness and a sense of loss. Their parents are experiencing memory loss and the ensuing proble…

April 15, 2011 4:00 pm(0)

Workbook valuable tool for ADRD patients

Workbook valuable tool for ADRD patients

I receive frequent phone calls from people wanting facts and advice on the early stages of Alzheimer's disease or a related disorder, collecti…

April 01, 2011 12:00 pm(0)

Who will speak for you when you can't?

Who will speak for you when you can't?

I have a confession. While I have addressed groups and lectured many individuals about the hazards of not implementing advance directives, I h…

February 18, 2011 2:00 pm(0)

There's no place like home

There's no place like home

When my son left after being home for Thanksgiving, I called after him, "Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take…

December 17, 2010 2:00 pm(0)

Caregivers must learn to accept others' help

Caregivers must learn to accept others' help

I can finally retrieve snapshot memories of my younger father breaking into spontaneous tap dancing or throwing out his yo-yo with all the tri…

November 19, 2010 4:00 pm(0)

'Stuff' is not what memories are made of

'Stuff' is not what memories are made of

"Those were the days, my friends. We thought they'd never end." These are words from a 1968 song by Mary Hopkins, a song from my youth. When I…

October 22, 2010 1:45 pm(0)

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